Are there other options?

There’s something alluring about going “all in”.

About pushing a goal or idea to the extreme.

Some of us find any and every opportunity to do so.

We do this with food.

Want to eat more plants?

Want to avoid problematic foods?

Be a carnivore.

We do this with our values.

Want to pursue enlightenment?

What to feel successful?

Quit your job.

Be an entrepreneur.

We do this with relationships.

Love your partner?

Get married.

Having doubts?

We present ourselves clear, black and white choices.

All in or all out.

This or that.

We only see two options, often equals and opposites.

We feel pulled to pursue one goal at the expense of pursuing any others.

But is this really necessary?

Is life broadcast only in black and white?

Must you be vegan to eat more plants?

Carnivore to avoid problematic foods?

A monk to practice detachment?

An entrepreneur to feel successful?

Marry because you’re in love?

Break up because you’re not sure?

Have you explored the possibilities?

Are there other options?

A middle ground?

Action in consideration of two feelings or ideas that aren’t directly compatible?

Going all in toward a single goal feels safe.

There’s benefit to chasing the extremes.

To finding one’s limits.

To going “all in”.

It is, at times, the best option.

But it’s rarely the only option.

You might find that your seemingly competing goals are not mutually exclusive.

That you can pursue both at the same time.

Often without any compromise.

That you can eat more plants and avoid problematic foods.

That you can pursue enlightenment and feel successful.

That you can stay with your partner without committing forever.

Of course, if you do want to go “all in”, that’s cool, too.

Just know that you might have other options.

That finding one’s limits means being limited.

You are worthy of the best life.

All in, all out, or somewhere between.

You’ve got this.

Originally published at https://coachroba.com on December 24, 2019.