Self-love and self-improvement are not mutually exclusive

Some assume that self-love precludes self-improvement.

That self-love means accepting oneself “as is”, with no intention of improvement.

Similarly, one might think that a desire to change indicates that they do not love themselves.

In either case, an assumption is that one cannot simultaneously love oneself and want to improve.

That is, that self-love and self-improvement cannot coexist.

While many of us might view ourselves through such a lens, we don’t view others similarly.

We are fully capable of loving others while still recognizing their flaws.

We love others while still encouraging them to improve.

Our love for another might even be at the root of our desire for them to change.

It might be that we love them so much that we want them to live the life they are capable of living.

We want them to make the change because they deserve it.

To strive for more because they are worthy.

Because we believe in them.

Yet we do not hold such perspectives toward ourselves.

We do not see that we can use self-love as the foundation for self-improvement.

That our desire to be better can be driven by a deep, strong self-love.

Self-love and self-improvement are not mutually exclusive.

The latter can be the highest expression of the former.

Acknowledge your worth.

Recognize your potential.

Understand your responsibility.

Work toward making it happen.

Let go of the outcome.

Do not let your results dictate your sense of worth.

Yes, the outcome matters.

Yes, you should want for your efforts to be fruitful.

If they aren’t, however, you are just as worthy of love.

From others and from yourself.

You’ve got this.

Originally published at on August 11, 2020.



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