You will be criticized
You are going to be criticized.
How you’re living.
What you’re doing.
And this criticism can be paralyzing.
It keeps you from taking action.
From living the life you’re called to live.
You don’t change your diet.
You don’t start the training program.
You don’t let go of a habit that no longer serves you.
Even when facing criticism from people you don’t particularly like.
Or, thanks to social media, people you don’t even know.
Your instinct is to succumb.
To not act.
Some might suggest that to heed criticism is inherently wrong.
That criticism should be ignored by default.
Often, we fall into a pattern of one approach or the other.
We let criticism dictate our actions.
Or we never consider it at all.
What if there’s another option?
What if the subject is more nuanced?
Criticism is not useless.
There may be times when criticism brings to light factors you’d not yet considered.
Of feelings that you knew to be true but had been suppressing.
In which case you might reconsider your course.
There may be times when criticism, more specifically how it makes us feel, is simply a manifestation of patterned self-doubt.
A pattern that only serves to keep you “safe”, yet stagnant.
In which case you might act through discomfort.
The key to determining which is true is to reflect on whatever criticism you face.
At the end of this reflection is where you’ll find your next steps.
Criticism itself is powerless.
How it makes you feel, however, is worth exploring.
What’s at the root of this fear and hesitation?
Legitimate need for reassessment?
A default pattern of self-doubt?
Need for acceptance?
You are worthy of the best life.
That life will be criticized.
You will be criticized.
You determine what that criticism means to you.
You determine what it’s calling for you to do.
You’ve got this.
Originally published at https://coachroba.com on December 5, 2019.